It's been more than a year since I became a Mama.
There are so many things I thought I would never say or do (or buy) as a parent, that I now say or do daily. It's the most amazing thing ever, having created more to love in this beautiful world. I now have a far greater appreciation for my own parents, and I understand that all of the sacrifices -- and what I used to perceive as hard work -- actually don't feel like sacrifices or work at all, when the one thing that makes you happiest is seeing your little boy or girl thrive.
So I think I will write a blog post about things I totally get now, as a parent, and I'd like to take this opportunity to apologize for any weird looks I gave you trailblazers in our circle of friends for having said, done, or bought any of these things. This will include my own list of must-haves for new parents, even though I (stupidly) didn't read any of these lists before Oakes was born.
I will also share lessons or strategies I'm learning along the way and ideas for effectively managing time to achieve a healthy work/life balance. I hear so many people say "cherish these days -- it all goes by so quickly" or "ahhh, I wish my teenagers could be babies again, just for a day", and I don't want to miss a moment of Oakes' babyhood. People often ask me what I'm up to and I don't really have an elevator pitch, so I just say "Momming". But really, I'm still very busy with speaking engagements & promotional work, modelling, providing colour commentary for CBC's coverage of the World Cup Skicross Tour, managing our five rental properties (+ one of my Mom's and one of Jay's Mom's), and hosting guests for Whistler Blackcomb's 'Ski with an Olympian' program -- to name a few of the regular business activities under my company, Ashleigh McIvor Endeavours, on top of our major endeavour: developing the Rise & Shine Retreat just north of Whistler. So, needless to say, I've had to get creative to fit it all in!
I would imagine that most of you started following me because of your interest in my ski career, so my intention is that this will serve as a heads up that I'm shifting gears. While you will still see glimpses into my adventures on mountains and in the woods through my social media channels, I'm going to make this space a place for a real blog. Going forward, my focus will be on parenting, health & wellness, and managing busy lifestyles.
With that, I would like to openly declare my New Year's Resolutions. (Don't you find you are more likely to stick to your word that your mere thoughts?) So here they are, along with some tips for implementing them:
1) I resolve to rely on well-designed systems for a more efficient, effective business life.
-> write to-do lists out on paper daily, so that you can stop running through them in your head, and you can cross completed tasks right out (ideally with a big, huge Sharpie!)
-> bring your computer with you everywhere you go, so you can work wherever and whenever your baby falls asleep
-> allocate certain timeframes for focused work, and cease ‘office hours’ outside of those timeframes
-> pay people to do things that you can pay people to do, with money you'll save on childcare by being more available to your child or money you'll earn using your time more effectively (hire a cleaner, a handyperson, get things delivered, etc...)
2) I resolve to cook and prepare food at home more
-> get organized with a weekly grocery list and meal plans, so that you don't give into the urge to eat out each evening
-> buy a nice set of Tupperware containers so you can prepare extra and freeze it for another day
-> order groceries online to complement resolution #1! (I like spud.ca)
-> follow some foodies like @hookedonplants or @todieforFF on instagram or twitter (PLEASE let me know if you know of any other good foodies!)
3) I resolve to remember that good health is to be cherished above all else.
-> our friends have this saying... "shit could be worse"... remember that no matter how difficult something may seem, we have it pretty good here, living this lifestyle
-> since Oakes was born, I just keep thinking that nothing else really, actually matters, other than good health
4) I resolve to be more present/mindful, and to tune the noise out for my own mental health.
-> have you ever noticed how rosy things look once they are in the past? (that festival you went to 5 years ago, or the vacation you were on last winter) -- feel that rosiness NOW.
--> think about how you will look back on today in the future, and appreciate what you have
-> spend more time focusing on what you've accomplished, and how excited you would have been to know that you would have accomplished those things, had someone told you that you would 5 years ago.
-> take time to silence your thoughts, and to eliminate unnecessary worry or stress.
5) I resolve to put as much time and energy (and passion and devotion) into my marriage as I do parenting
-> don’t rely on a schedule for intimacy, but do create a regular (weekly?) deadline as a fallback plan if that schedule is not naturally taking shape
-> honour your commitment to graciously stick to your predetermined role without allowing any resentment to surface in those brief moments where your partner’s role seems more appealing. (‘cause the grass is always greener on the other side)
-> do what needs to be done to ensure that you are both getting enough sleep, alone time, and fun in (which brings me right back to resolution #1!)
Happy New Year, fans, friends and followers! ~with LOVE, Ashleigh